Mindfulness 2014: Decluttering and Relationships


Sitting Room with CH's FlowersIf you’ve been reading my blog since the turn of the year you’ll know I’ve been busy with my goals plans and timetables for the upcoming year, that I want to consolidate a lot of work in progress, and in order to do that, realised I need to be more focused. Mindfulness, therefore, is my chosen word for 2014.

In order to get to be more mindful, I’ve started journaling again, on a daily basis. I allowed this to drop out in 2013, after many years of the practice, with disastrous results. I could kick myself.

Since picking it up again, my focus has improved dramatically and I’ve started reorganising this and that and had some revelations and my work has begun to flow again and in the right direction.

And so, I thought I’d share my Mindfulness year and will be posting a Mindfulness blog post once a week or so. I am no guru and have no leadership aspirations: it’s a case of take what you find useful and discard the rest.

One of the issues that’s come up in my journaling is on the subject of clutter.  It’s not that I’m a mega-messy, hoarding person (despite my boxes of stones and fossils under the bed); what’s happened is that I’ve accumulated a certain amount of stuff that – without going into a lot of detail – has negative connotations. Most of this has been forced on me by events beyond my control. It’s taking up space in our home, there’s anger and resentment associated with it, and it isn’t useful. It detracts from the beauty of my environment and is thus affecting my creativity. It’s a burden. It’s a block. So it has to go. I’ve just gotten rid of some of it and felt a weight lift from my shoulders already.

Serendipitously, a newish Facebook friend, Sandra FeltonThe Organizer Lady – has authored a number of books on organising your home and therefore life and I recently bought a Kindle version of this one:

Organizing Magic: 40 Days to a Well-Ordered Home and Life

It’s not just practical advice (though there is a lot of that in the book). I was struck for instance by what Sandra has written about how a cluttered house affects a person’s willingness to make relationships, because if your home is a mess, you won’t want anybody to come round and see it. You have to feel it is welcoming to visitors – beautiful and comfortable. I know what she means. There are things I really do not like in this house that I can’t change just yet and I don’t want other people to see them.  It’s not about having a show house before you can entertain.  Enough is a key word in the book, not perfect. Perfectionism is also a relationship preventative.

The book contains many other nuggets of wisdom. I recommend it. It’s less than £2 to buy the Kindle version and it’s a quick read. For me, it mirrored back to me that I’m already fairly well organised (and not the absolute mess I sometimes feel). It’s important when walking towards B from A, to know where you are, now, on the road.

I have spotted myself as a culprit of some of the bad habits Sandra touches upon in the book, ones we unconsciously develop that bring on clutter and chaos and I’ve begun cutting these out. One especially, for me, is failing to finish domestic tasks. There’s a basket of clean washing on the floor next to me right now that has needed putting away for two days.

But at least I did the washing!

Happy mindfulness.

Ann

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12 Responses to Mindfulness 2014: Decluttering and Relationships

  1. Regarding a well-organised house so relationships could improve, i.e. be willing to invite people into it. I’m really not a housewife, deplore domestic chores & often let things go in favour of just about anything else, usually being creative or gardening. Recently I decided to have a go at having a nicer house. It has happened that I’d fly in and clean and scrub because people are coming and they’d need to feel welcome. I’m now cleaning and scrubbing for me, making me welcome in my own home. It’s beginning to work.

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    • annisik51 says:

      That’s an interesting perception. We are leading parallel lives in this! I’ve recently arranged for ‘help’ and I get the basics done for me once a fortnight. It’s only 3 hours to my helper, but it would take me a couple of days, so it makes a huge difference to me.

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      • I’m considering getting a helper too for the big things like washing the windows. One can end up doing only household chores if one isn’t careful.

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      • annisik51 says:

        My biggest domestic problem has been moving around a lot. Each move is a huge upheaval, physically, emotionally, artistically. The rhythm of my life has been a bit like trying to drive a car with the handbrake on! I hope I don’t have to move anymore! Ann

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      • I understand. My last move took me 2 and a half years to recover from the change. Although I’ve been unhappy some of the time where I am – moved from a big city to a small country town – I just cannot pack up again to go. I’ve got things more or less arranged the way I like it although still lots to do and am staying put so one can get on with particularly the creativity. I don’t think I’ll survive another move.

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      • annisik51 says:

        An artist friend – alas, now passed away due to pancreatic cancer – once said she thought I probably wouldn’t be able to produce a lot of art until I’d settled down in one place. I think she was right for the kind of artist I am. It’s difficult to ‘bloom where you’re planted’ if you need deep roots!

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      • Indeed. Good luck. Wishing you deep roots. Make it happen.

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      • AnnIsikArts says:

        The wheels have long been in motion – it’s just that the incline is steep and I don’t expect that to improve! 🙂

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      • Be mindful. Ha! 🙂

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  2. I wish you well in your organizational adventure.

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